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A private space, just for the two of you.
Relief is a quiet, encrypted app for couples. Notes, photos, intimate moments — encrypted on your device before they leave it. Nobody can read them but you and your partner. Not us. Not anyone.
Both partners install on their own phones, then link with a shared code.
What is Relief?
A small, principled tool for two people in a relationship to stay connected through the moments that don't fit anywhere else. It's not a social network. It's not a dating app. It's not for sharing publicly. It's just you and your partner, in a space that's only the two of you.
Built for couples who want a low-pressure way to express interest, share intimate moments, track moods together, and look back on the rhythm of their relationship — all in a single private app, with no algorithms watching and no audience listening.
🔐 Encrypted on your device. Always.
When you write a note, send a photo, or log a moment, your phone scrambles the content with a key that's derived from a code only you and your partner share. The scrambled version is what reaches our servers. We never see the readable version, and we cannot decrypt it ourselves — even if compelled to.
The same kind of encryption that protects Signal messages and iMessage. Industry-standard AES-256-GCM with PBKDF2 key derivation (200,000 iterations, per-couple salt). You and your partner are the only people who can read what's in your account.
What you can do together
Send a tease
A flirty note or photo to brighten their day. Heart it back to say it landed.
Make a request
A direct ask, with no pressure. Mark it fulfilled when the moment happens — or let it simmer.
Share moods
A shared palette of feelings. See your patterns over time. Even gently note your partner's mood when they go quiet.
A private gallery
Photos stay encrypted on the server, decrypted only on your devices. Never lose them to a phone backup.
See the rhythm
A weekly summary, a calendar of highlights, an analytics view of how you spend time together over months.
Mark the moments
A connection level that only goes up. No streaks to break. No guilt mechanics. Just a record of your moments together.
Designed for honesty, not pressure
- 1Counters only go up.
No streaks to break. No "you've been quiet" guilt. The app celebrates moments — it never withholds.
- 2Lock-screen safe.
Notification text is intentionally generic. Sensitive content stays inside the app, behind authentication.
- 3Mood is expressive, not gating.
Sharing how you feel never blocks anything. You're communicating, not switching the app on or off for your partner.
- 4Each partner only deletes their own.
Nobody can nuke the other's history in a moment of frustration. Years of shared moments are protected from emotional decisions.
- 5Useful even when one of you is quieter.
The app holds up if engagement is asymmetric. A duet when both partners are reaching, a single-user journal of shared experience when needed.
Common questions
How is this different from a regular note-sharing app or iMessage?
iMessage isn't designed around the rhythms of a relationship. Relief is. The mood tracking, the request-and-fulfill cycle, the connection counter, the shared calendar of moments — all of these surface relationship patterns that text threads can't. And unlike iMessage, the encryption isn't tied to one company's account; it's a code only you and your partner share.
What happens if we lose our code?
Any device that's still signed in can show the code in Settings. If both of you lose the code AND every signed-in device, the encrypted content can't be recovered — that's the cost of true end-to-end encryption (the same property that protects Signal, iCloud Keychain, ProtonMail).
Can someone with our code break in?
The code is the key, so anyone you give it to can read your private content. Treat it like a password. To soften the consequences if it leaks, the app refuses to activate a new device until either an already-approved device approves it, or 24 hours pass with no rejection. New device sign-ins also send a notification to your verified email. So if someone tries to use a leaked code on their device, you'll see and can reject it.
Do you have access to my photos and messages?
No. Photos and messages are encrypted on your phone before they reach our servers. We only ever store the scrambled (ciphertext) version. Even if a court ordered us to hand over your data, we'd hand over ciphertext that can't be decrypted without the code we never see.
Are you tracking us?
No. No analytics SDKs, no third-party trackers, no ad libraries, no location data, no contact list access. The only data we collect is what's needed to make the app work: display names, optional emails (for security alerts only), and encrypted blobs we can't read.
What about my partner — they have to use this too, right?
Yes. Relief is partner-to-partner by design. One of you creates the couple, gets a code, and shares it with the other. Both partners install the app on their own devices and sign in with the same code.
Is this just for sex?
No. Sex and intimacy are part of what couples share, and Relief lets you log and reflect on those moments without pretending they don't exist — but the app is just as much about cuddles, mood check-ins, the small daily teases, the rhythm of being together.
How much does it cost?
Free during early access. We're planning a small subscription tier in the future for premium features (longer photo retention, encrypted video clips, advanced analytics) — but core mood, requests, photos, and calendar will always be free. We don't run ads.
Just two names
Use whatever you call each other. You can change them later.
Done ✨
Send this code to your love. They open the same site on their phone and tap "I have a code."
Tip: keep this code safe. It's also the password to your space.
Enter our code
Type the 12-character code to access your space.
Use a backup code
Enter one of your saved backup codes. It can only be used once — once you're back in, generate a fresh set in Settings and rotate the couple code.
Which one are you, love?
Tap your name.
Just confirming
You're linking as . Tap continue if that's right.
🔑 You're back in
You signed in with a backup code. The main couple code is still the one you forgot — rotate it now so you can join new devices later, and generate a fresh set of backup codes while you're at it.
🔑 Your couple code was rotated
Your partner changed your shared code. Memorize the new one — the old code no longer works.
Hi 💕
Waiting for your love to join — share your code with them.
🔒 Quick check — your code
This device hasn't seen your code yet, so it can't read your private messages or photos. Pop it in once and we'll remember.
Proxies for oxytocin (bonding), dopamine (desire), cortisol (calm) and testosterone (drive) — based on app activity, not medical measurements.
Tap a mood to share how you're feeling.
hasn't updated in 12h. Make a guess at how they're feeling — they'll get a soft notification and can confirm or change it.
It's been a stretch — work, sleep, energy. Most couples have stretches like this. If you'd like to lean toward connection, the app exists for exactly this.
Small bids almost always work better than big asks: a quiet tease, a short note, a request with no urgency.
Past the natural ebb most couples have. It doesn't mean anything is wrong — but it's worth a gentle check-in.
Worth naming: when teases or requests sit ignored, the sender starts to feel unheard. Sometimes the kindest move isn't waiting to feel desire — it's responding to a bid your partner made. Even a heart on a sitting tease is a reach back. Even a small tease back, when you've been quiet, is enough.
Connection comes before desire for many people. The reach itself is often the thaw.
Stretches like this happen, and they're survivable. But they're worth naming rather than waiting out. Whatever's behind it — stress, distance, something unsaid — silence rarely dissolves it. And the longer one of you sends teases or requests that go unhearted and unanswered, the easier it is to start feeling invisible to the other.
The repair almost always starts with one bid. Then another. Then a small response.
Use the app for what it was built for — a low-pressure way to say I'm still reaching for you. Send a tease — even just an emoji. Heart something they sent. Make a request without expecting it to be fulfilled tonight.
Two months is real. Whatever started this stretch — stress, hurt, exhaustion, drift — it has become its own pattern now. That happens. It's not a verdict on your relationship.
What gets harder past this point: the longer the silence, the bigger every bid starts to feel. A simple tease can begin to feel like a confession. A small request can feel like an ultimatum. That's the gap distorting things, not the bid itself.
The app is built to keep the stakes small. A tease costs nothing. A heart on something sitting in your inbox costs nothing. A request without an agenda costs nothing.
If one of you has been sending into silence, this is where the reach gets seen. If one of you has been quiet, the simplest reach back is right here. Either side moves first — that's how the pattern shifts.
A quarter of a year. Most couples that get here didn't decide to — it accumulated, one tired night and one missed bid at a time, until silence became the mode.
The story each of you is telling yourself about this stretch matters more than the stretch itself. The mind fills the gap with rejection, inadequacy, contempt — none of which may be true. The bid is the only thing that interrupts that loop.
Long stuck-stretches in relationships almost never heal themselves. They heal when one person decides to act before they feel like it. Not a grand gesture — the smallest possible reach. A tease. A heart. A note that says you're still here.
No expectations. No timeline. Just the bid, on this side of the silence.
Four months. Be honest with yourself for a moment: the version of your relationship from before this stretch — does it feel like it's still there, or has it started to feel like a different time?
Either answer is valid. Both are common at this point. What's harder to admit is that whichever person is reading this — the one who's been reaching, the one who's been quiet — has been carrying something alone. Both of you have. The weight isn't the same in shape, but it's the same in toll.
Stretches this long don't usually break under their own pressure — they require deliberate softening. The way the app does that: small, repeated, no-stakes signals. Not a fix-it date. Not a confrontation. A tease. A heart. A note that just acknowledges they're still here.
If you've been doing all the reaching, your reach is not unwanted — it's just unanswered. If you've been on the quiet side, the door has not closed; the simplest gesture from you would land enormously right now.
Five months is approaching half a year. At this distance, two things usually become true at the same time: you both miss it, and you both don't know how to start.
What often makes this stretch worse is the assumption that whatever broke must be fixed before reconnection can happen. That's almost never how it works. Connection re-establishes first. Whatever needs fixing gets easier to talk about once you're not strangers in your own home.
The app stays low-stakes for exactly this reason. A tease isn't a vote on the future of the relationship. A heart isn't a contract. They're signals — I see you. I'm still here. I want to be on your side again.
If silence has been your protection, it's worth asking what it's protecting you from. If reaching has been your effort, it's worth knowing the reach has been received, even when it hasn't been answered. One bid, from wherever you are.
Six months. This isn't a stretch anymore — it's a chapter. And whatever you'd say about that chapter if you were honest with each other right now, neither of you is hearing it.
Stuck-stretches this long usually involve some grief. For who you were together, for what came easily, for the version of intimacy that used to not require this much thought. That grief is real, and the only honest path through it is acknowledging it — to yourself first, then to each other.
The app isn't the answer here. But it is a doorway. A tease at this distance is a small declaration that you're not done. A heart on something sitting in your inbox is a small declaration that you've been seen, even if you couldn't say so. A request, even one that won't be answered tonight, is the act of staying in the conversation.
Some couples find their way back from here. Most do, when at least one of them refuses to let silence be the final word. Be the one. Either of you. Both of you, if you can.
💗 is asking
No words this time — just a sweet little ask.
What happened? Tap any that applied (optional).
When? Leave blank for "just now."
✨ It's on
You said yes to . Did the moment happen?
Tap any that applied (optional).
Waiting on … 💭
It's been a while. You can send a new request to replace this if you want — or leave it simmering.
What happened? Tap any that applied (optional).
When? Leave blank for "just now."
said yes 💗
When the moment happens, mark it together so it counts.
Tap any that applied (optional).
Together with ✨
+1 in your moments.
Tap any that applied (optional).
Saving it for later 🌙
Moments come and go. No worries.
said later tonight 🌆
said not tonight, cuddle instead 🌙
😘 a tease from
Tease sent to 💭
hearted your tease 💗
Send a tease
Just a flirty little something. No expectations.
Ask for a moment
Optional note + optional photo. Whatever's on your mind.
Log a moment ✨
For when it happened spontaneously, without a request.
Who started it?
When? Leave blank for today.
Tap any that applied (optional).
Let's get it on your Home Screen ✨
Just a few taps. It'll only take a second.
It's the little square with an arrow pointing up. Look at the bottom of the screen — it's right between the back arrows and the bookmark icon.
Don't see a bottom toolbar? Tap once anywhere on this page, or scroll up a tiny bit, and it'll appear.
A menu pops up. Scroll past the row of app icons and tap the row that says "Add to Home Screen" with a little square-with-plus icon.
In the top-right corner. The Relief icon (a soft pink heart 💗) will appear on your Home Screen.
This part matters. Close Safari and tap the new Relief icon on your Home Screen. (If you stay in Safari, notifications won't work.)
If you tap "All done" but you're still in Safari, this same screen will keep showing up — that's just a reminder to open the Home Screen icon instead.
One little thing on iPhone
Add Relief to your Home Screen so we can send you gentle little notes from each other.
Turn on gentle notifications
Soft, loving little nudges — never more than twice a week, never anything risqué on the lock screen.
Notifications are blocked
That's OK — you can turn them on anytime in your phone's Settings → Notifications → Relief.
This device doesn't support push
That's fine — you can still use Relief in your browser. Notifications work best on iPhone (added to Home Screen) or desktop Chrome/Firefox.
This week ✨
Highlights ✨
Memories
No moments yet. They'll show up here as you mark them ✨
What should we call you, and what defaults make sense?
✓ verified
We'll use this for security alerts. Per-user — your partner has their own.
Add an email so we can alert you about security events (new device sign-ins, code changes). Optional for now.
Couple code
The code unlocks your encrypted history. Anyone with it can read everything in the couple — keep it close.
Show your code
If you've lost track of it, you can read it back on any signed-in device.
Save it somewhere safe (a password manager works). If both of you lose all signed-in devices and forget the code, your encrypted history can't be recovered.
Change your code
Change your shared code if you think someone else has seen it. Both of you will need the new code on any future devices.
Heads up before you continue:
- The current code stops working immediately.
- Your partner gets a notification and a banner with the new code on their next session.
- Write the new code down — if both of you lose it, the encrypted content can't be recovered.
Done. Your new couple code:
Save this somewhere safe. Your partner will see it on their next session.
Backup codes
Single-use recovery codes. If you ever forget the couple code, any one of these can get you back in. Save them in a password manager or write them down somewhere safe.
unused code active. All previous codes have been used. No codes generated yet.
Save these codes now.
They won't be shown again. Each one can be used once if you ever lose the main couple code.
manages their own avatar.
Backup control — once picks one, it's locked to them.
Gender:
They can change this on their own device.
Devices
Each device that signs in shows up here. New devices need approval before they get full access.
No devices yet.
Notifications
You're all set ✨ — try a test ping if you want to confirm.
Appearance
Match your device's preference, or pin a single theme.
About
Built for two people. Encrypted on your device — we can't read your private content.
Leave the couple
Removes your account and everything you authored — your photos, notes, moods, requests, and teases. keeps everything they authored and can keep using the app solo.
If has already left, the couple itself will be removed at the same time. You'll be asked to type your couple code to confirm. You're the last user in the couple, so this also removes the couple itself. You'll be asked to type your couple code to confirm.
Manage moods
The two of you share this list. Tag each mood with who it applies to — only relevant moods show up in your picker.
Add a new mood
Our list
Nothing yet. Add one above to get started.
Manage acts
The two of you share this list. Add anything you'd want to tag a moment with; remove anything you don't.
Add a new act
Your list
Nothing yet. Add one above to get started.
Our gallery
No photos here yet. Send a tease or attach one to a request and it'll show up.
No note
📊 Analytics
Activity
Engagement timeline
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Rhythm
Reciprocity
Who's driving each axis.
Hearted ratio
Share of teases that landed.
Fulfillment rate
Share of requests that reached fulfillment.
Request outcomes
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Acts leaderboard
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Mood frequency
Top moods logged.
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Day of week
Engagement intensity per weekday.
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No teases this day.
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